Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Song lyrics take on a whole new meaning...

I used to believe all the best songs were about lovers. I specifically remember bopping my head to Backstreet Boy songs (don't judge, you did it too), thinking, "damn, these guys get it... They get what it means to be in love".

I have always been a quote-person. I had a notebook in university I used to fill with song lyrics, quotes from movies and books, even sentences from conversations. Anything which struck a chord with me was likely to make it into my notebook. In high school I irritated my parents by scrawling song lyrics on my bedroom walls (obviously where my fine sense of interior design stems from, haha). My point being, these quotes were all about romantic love, the best kind of love there is.

Until it wasn't. Until I knew there was more to strive for. Until I met my little man. Until we lost him.

Now, all the songs I hear are about my baby. I hear the same songs, but the lyrics no longer speak of romantic love, they have taken on a secondary meaning. They describe my feelings, thoughts and love I have for Jack...

Here are some examples:

3 Doors Down: Here Without You

"I'm here without you baby,
but you're still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby,
and I dream about you all the time"

Adele: Someone Like You:

"Never mind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too.
Don't forget me, I bed,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead""

Eva Cassidy's cover of "Fields of Gold"

"I never made promises lightly
And there have been some that I've broken
But I swear in the days still left
We'll walk in the fields of gold

I know there are more I've forgotten to include... What about you, any song lyrics change after your loss?


B. Wilson said...

I don't know if you like country music up there in Canada, but we're fans... there's a song by The Band Perry that is titled, "If I Die Young"-- I pretty much can't listen to it anymore because I'm sobbing through it.

"Lord make me a rainbow, I'll shine down on my mother, she'll know I'm safe with you when she stands under my colors, life ain't always what you think it ought to be, no, ain't even gray but she buries her baby, the sharp night of a short life, well, I've had just enough time..."

B. Wilson said...

I meant "the sharp knife of a short life"

Molly said...

I was JUST listening to my "Hayes" playlist on my ipod on the way home from the cemetery and thinking I wanted to share some of these songs with my BLM friends.

Lindsay McCaul: Grief Born and Let Go
(I heard "Let Go" in the cool down of a yoga-type class I took, and I started crying. Obviously, they played it to "let go" of stress, but it's all about grief. When I found it on itunes, I also found "Grief Born".)

I Will Carry You, Selah
Where Joy and Sorrow Meet, Avalon
Glory Baby, Watermark
These are off of a CD that a BL support group gave me. They are more religious songs, but so meaningful to me! The words are unbelievable.

LookItsJessica said...

Hi, I just wanted to comment because I've been reading your blog lately. My name is Jessica and I recently lost my son-- he was born prematurely.

Also the lyrics to "Here without you" have been in my mind nearly constantly since Liam died so I definitely relate to you on that.

Take care

Dana said...

All songs sound different to me now too. I have a playlist on my blog. I couldn't listen to music for a few months after Jacob died, especially the songs on my playlist. Listening to them would knock me down to the bottom of the pit again. I can now though, and I feel more melancholy when I do.

Melissa said...

Logan's song (miracle) - Lesley Pike - storms may come and storms may go ... You remain my miracle ...I will love you forever.

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